Let’s just get it out there because we all know it’s true:
2016 sucked!
Too many people were taken too early from this earth, including one of my best friends growing up. I have not experienced grief like that before and realize it will always be there, even if the intensity changes over time. While the loss of someone important to you can send you to a dark place of questions unanswered and “what if’s,” it can also wake you from hibernation.
When a friend passes away in the prime of his or her life, it can open windows, clear fog, unlock doors, free fear and knock you into the next chapter. It can give you perspective: Life is short. Things that bothered you before, seem to take a backseat. Things you’ve been putting off for years suddenly seem important to tackle.
Intangible goals aside, I focused on writing and traveling endeavors. My first goal was to reconnect to creativity by meeting up with some of my former female educators who have inspired my writing over the years.
- Memoir/Creative Writing Professor LJ Baker.
- Creative Writing Educator and Freelancer Nikki Kallio.
I also kept in mind all the strong, inspirational women that have influenced my perspective of the world.
- Musician Caroline Smith
- Author Lisa Genova
- Arabic facilitator and Oshkosh mom Hasna.
- Literature Professor Julie.
Next it was time to let the world fall at my feet. My BFF and I found out our favorite podcast, Guys We Fucked (Sorry About Last Night) – The anti-slut shaming podcast with Krystyna Hutchinson & Corinne Fisher, were touring in Chicago before the holidays! So we spent a weekend with our feminine selves in the big city.

Kyla and I with Krystyna Hutchinson and Corinne Fisher after the Guys We Fucked live podcast at the Amethyst Theatre in Chicago on Nov. 18, 2016.
Listen to Live in Chicago episode here.
- Downtown Chicago after the Tree Lighting Ceremony.
- Holding up The Bean in Chicago.
This was the first trip I’d taken in far too long. And it certainly won’t be the last one.
Next up … Cancun in October for another incredible woman’s wedding! It will be my four college buddies (a bride and her three bridesmaids) at an all-inclusive resort — the Spring Break we never took! #CantWait
After that — who knows where I’ll end up. But I do know I’ll be going somewhere. What with this new luggage I got for Christmas and all …